Thank you for writing this piece. have recurring dreams about a relationship that ended like 20 years ago. I remember it as an ideal relationship—no abuse, just intense love and passion—and I honestly can’t remember what started to go wrong with it. All I can remember was the trauma of its ending, and him completely cutting me out of his life. I’ve been considering talking to a therapist about it but it has always seemed like such a silly thing, and I’m embarrassed to even talk about it or admit that after so long it’s still on my psychological radar.